Prents agreement at court

We always need love from our parents. If the parents can't agree, the judge will make a final decision at a court hearing, sometimes their areas of disagreement are very simple to resolve. Sometimes a short hearing is sufficient to resolve the issues for the time being. Some parents only need a custody order that's going to last them a little bit of time until they can let things settle.

Some parents are looking for something that's going to last a lot longer. So a case can be resolved anywhere from a short discussion with a judge,which can help parents reach an agreement,to a judge hearing some testimony from each parent, and then making a determination,and sometimes there are evaluations that might be ordered, or there might be a longer sort of a hearing like a trial. We need you to listen to us and talk to us. When we are given a choice in things the whole process is easier. We want a say in more things, especially our living arrangements. So between the ages of 6 and 13, when they didn't ask me what i would prefer for a switching schedule, i was heavily into softball and dance in those ages,and I had a lot of things going on during the week and on the weekends, and it was always a hassle for me to have to worry about who's going to take me to dance practice or who's going to take me to my softball game.

When i got smart enough into my teenage years and realized that I had a say and had a voice,I started asking more about how the court process worked,and they explained the switching schedules and the parenting plans. And I said, "Well, can I put my input in, because I'd like to do cheer leading and it's, you know, six days a week sometimes?" and that's when my parents started getting more flexible. 

I feel okay but sometimes I feel a little sad. It is normal for parents and children to go through an adjustment period when there are changes in the time they spend together. They may find it is a difficult and painful time,and parents and children may have a hard time communicating. Research has shown that ongoing conflict between the parents can be harmful to children. There are things parents can do to minimize the conflict and help their children adjust.

The one thing that affects the children the most is the conflict that parents have. The ongoing conflict affects them in schooling, their emotions, their future relationships. And so the first thing that you can do to help your child is find ways to reduce conflict. That is the central thing you can do. One of them that we encourage is that parents do not make any disparaging remarksin the presence of the children regarding the other parent, or allowing third parties to do so.